Motherhood is a wild, beautiful, exhausting, and emotional ride. And if there’s one thing that makes it easier, it’s having people around you who get it. This Time To Talk Day, let’s chat about why finding a supportive community of mums and mums-to-be is so important for your mental well-being - and why you should never feel alone in this journey.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
Becoming a mum is one of the biggest transitions in life. It brings love and joy, but it can also bring doubt, exhaustion, and moments where you question everything (yes, even whether you put the kettle in the fridge again!). Having a group of supportive mum friends means you have people to share those worries with - people who won’t judge when you say you’re struggling or when you admit that you haven’t brushed your hair in three days.
When you open up, you realise that everyone has those moments. That sense of relief - knowing you’re not the only one - is priceless. More importantly, talking about your struggles isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of strength. Asking for help when you need it and surrounding yourself with people who uplift and reassure you can make all the difference.
Safe Spaces to Just Be You
Sometimes, you just need a place where you can show up exactly as you are - tired, emotional, and maybe even still in your pyjamas. Finding a safe space where you can chat, breathe, and be yourself without pressure is so important for mental wellbeing. Whether it’s a local mum group, an online support space, or a weekly yoga class where you can just exhale, these moments of connection can be a lifeline.
At The Relaxed Mama Club, I believe in creating those spaces. Spaces where you don’t have to pretend, where you can share honestly, and where you’ll always be met with kindness and understanding. Because let’s face it, no one should have to navigate motherhood feeling isolated. Having a go-to support network where you feel safe to express your worries, joys, and everything in between is invaluable.
The Power of Shared Experiences
One of the most beautiful things about connecting with other mums is realising that you’re never truly alone in what you’re feeling. Whether it’s struggling with sleepless nights, battling mum guilt, or feeling overwhelmed by the sheer responsibility of raising a tiny human - someone else gets it.
When you surround yourself with others who share their own experiences openly, it creates a ripple effect. It encourages honesty, normalises the highs and lows, and fosters deeper, more meaningful connections. Whether it’s through a heartfelt chat over a cup of tea or an online message of support at 2 AM, knowing that someone understands can be incredibly reassuring.
Safeguarding Your Mental Health in the Early Days
The early days (and months) of motherhood can feel overwhelming. Sleep deprivation, hormones, and the sheer responsibility of looking after a tiny human - it’s a lot. One of the best things you can do for your mental health is to talk about how you’re feeling. Bottling up emotions only makes them feel heavier, but sharing them - even just a little - can lighten the load.
It’s OK to say you’re finding things hard. It’s OK to ask for help. And it’s more than OK to prioritise your mental wellbeing. Motherhood is not a test of endurance - it's a journey that requires support, self-compassion, and rest.
There are so many ways to take care of your mental health:
Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or fellow mum.
Seeking support from a professional if needed—postnatal mental health matters.
Practicing mindfulness, deep breathing, or gentle movement to reconnect with yourself.
Giving yourself permission to step away from the pressure to “have it all together.”
If you ever feel like you’re struggling, reach out - to a friend, a support group, a professional. There is always someone who wants to listen and help.
Let’s Start the Conversation
This Time To Talk Day, let’s make a commitment to check in with ourselves and with each other. Send a message to that mum friend you haven’t seen in a while, open up to someone about how you’re really feeling, or come along to one of my Relaxed Mama Club sessions to connect with other mums who get it.
Motherhood isn’t meant to be done alone. Together, we can create a community where every mum feels seen, heard, and supported. 💕
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